Center for Family Ministries

For parents and caregivers of

teens 13 years old and above

 

 

The Pep-Teens Workshop Approach…….

 

One of the greatest joys in life is becoming a parent. And yet, it can also be one of the most challenging roles that parents are ever faced with. In these high-stressed times and surrounding complex environment, the demands and responsibilities of parenting seem to even be harder to fulfill.

 

Is there a better way to raise our teens?

 

CEFAM presents its PEP-TEENS WORKSHOP as an alternative approach to effective parenting. In this workshop, parents and other caregivers learn how to create more satisfying and productive relationships in the family. The program teaches specific and practical skills that parents need and will use in their daily interaction with their teens. After the workshop, parents need and will use in their daily interaction with their teens. After the workshop, parents may begin to feel more confident and capable to fulfill their roles as fathers and mothers. And, as they try out their new skills at home, they will hopefully be able to recapture and continue to enjoy this significant role which every parent truly values.

 

Topics…

 

Talk 1: Building A Positive Relationship With Your Teen

 

Parents are often times baffled with their teen. Years back, these parents can probably claim to have had a relatively smooth parent-child relationship. But now that their child is a teen-ager, things seem to have changed. What makes your teen different? What makes him behave the way he does? What are his present concerns? Part I of this module presents an overview of adolescent development. Knowing this will enable parents to understand their teen better and be more sensitive to his basic needs at this stage in his life.

Talk 2: Communicating Effectively With Your Teen

 

Do you want to build friendship and intimacy with your teen? Effective communication is a basic ingredient in developing a good relationship between parent and teen. Do you want to be close to him? At the same time, do you want your child to understand you? These are some of the vital questions that will be answered in this module. Important parenting skills such as reflective listening, I-message, and problem-solving will be thoroughly discussed in this workshop.

 

Talk 3: How To Improve Your Child’s Teen’s-Esteem

 

Every parent wants his teen to grow up capable, confident, and able to achieve his full potential. How de we help him develop these qualities? This module will teach parents practical ways of helping their teen build his self-worth which is essential to a healthy personality. Through lectures and activities, parents will find out if they are nurturing or blocking the full development of their teen’s self-esteem. Concrete ways to rebuild a child’s low self-esteem will also be discussed.

 

Talk 4: Positive Ways to Discipline Your Teen

 

Do you have difficulties in disciplining your teen? However, in reality, effective discipline is one of the best ways for the teen to develop responsibility and decision-making skills. In this module, parents will learn practical ways of using positive discipline. With these suggestions, parents will discover that discipline need not cause unnecessary stress on both parent and teen.

 

Special topics that parents are usually concerned with will also be briefly discussed in this module: sibling rivalry, developing social skills, schoolwork, boy-gril relationships, peer pressure, SDA (smoking, drugs, alcohol).

 

Method….

 

• Lecture Presentations
• Role-Playing Exercised and other experiential activities
• Question and Answer Forum

 

Resource Persons……

 

Speakers are trained counselors/ psychologists from the CEFAM staff.

 

The PEP-Teens Workshop is based on the U.S. program called Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP) and has been adopted by CEFAM speakers to meet the needs of the Filipino family.

Schedule……

Pep-Teens – October 6 & 13, 2007

 

Two Consecutive Saturdays

 

8:30 am – 4:30 pm

• The PEP-Teens Workshop is conducted in CEFAM two times a year. The entire workshop or portions of it (any of the individual topics) may be conducted for schools, corporations, and other organizations.

 

CEFAM Address

 

Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM)

Ateneo de Manila University

Loyola Heights, Q.C.

Tel. # 426-4289 to 92.

 

FEE

• P 2,000.00 per person
• P 3,600.00 per couple (discounted)

 

 

Other Parenting Talks Available…..

1. Adoptive Parenting

2. Bonding With Your Child

3. Connecting With Your Teen

4. Developing Resilience In Your Child

5. Developing Responsibilities In Your Child

6. Effects of Media on Your Child

7. Helping Your Chilld Develop Good Study Habits

8. Helping Your Child Handle Peer Pressure

9. How my Family of Origin Affects me Today

10. It takes two . . . to dialogue

11. Let’s talk about sex

12. Love and sex: God’s Ways

13. Managing A Solo Flight

14. Nurturing Your Child’s IQ

15. Teaching Values to Your Child

16. Understanding Friendship

17. What’s your EQ?

18. Work-Family Balance

 

For more questions or reservation, please feel free to call us at 426-4289 to 92.

For parents and caregivers of

Children between 1-12 years old

 

 

The Pep-Kids Workshop Approach…….

 

One of the greatest joys in life is becoming a parent. And yet, it can also be one of the most challenging roles that parents are ever faced with. In these high-stressed times and surrounding complex environment, the demands and responsibilities of parenting seem to even be harder to fulfill.

 

Is there a better way to raise our children?

 

CEFAM presents its PEP-KIDS WORKSHOP as an alternative approach to effective parenting. In this workshop, parents and other caregivers learn how to create more satisfying and productive relationships in the family. The program teaches specific and practical skills that parents need and will use in their daily interaction with their children. After the workshop, parents need and will use in their daily interaction with their children. After the workshop, parents may begin to feel more confident and capable to fulfill their roles as fathers and mothers. And, as they try out their new skills at home, they will hopefully be able to recapture and continue to enjoy this significant role which every parent truly values.

 

Topics…

 

Talk 1: Building A Positive Relationship With Your Child

 

Part I of this module presents an overview of child development at different stages in his life enables parents to understand their child better and be more sensitive to his basic needs. In the process, parents will discover important ways to strengthen their relationship.

 

Part II of this module gives parents a chance to examine their own parenting style and its possible effect on the child. A description of some of the different ways a child relates to his parents will also be presented.

Talk 2: Communicating Effectively With Your Child

 

Do you want to build friendship and intimacy with your child? Effective communication is a basic ingredient in developing a good relationship between parent and child. Do you want to be close to him? At the same time, do you want your child to understand you? These are some of the vital questions that will be answered in this module. Important parenting skills such as reflective listening, I-message, and problem-solving will be thoroughly discussed in this module.

 

Talk 3: How To Improve Your Child’s Self-Esteem

 

Every parent wants his child to grow up capable, confident, and able to achieve his full potential. How de we help him develop these qualities? This module will teach parents practical ways of helping their child build his self-worth which is essential to a healthy personality. Through lectures and activities, parents will find out if they are nurturing or blocking the full development of their child’s self-esteem. Concrete ways to rebuild a child’s low self-esteem will also be discussed.

 

Talk 4: Positive Ways to Discipline Your Child

 

Do you have difficulties in disciplining your child? However, in reality, effective discipline is one of the best ways for the child to develop responsibility and decision-making skills. In this module, parents will learn practical ways of using positive discipline. With these suggestions, parents will discover that discipline need not cause unnecessary stress on both parent and child.

 

Special topics that parents are usually concerned with will also be briefly discussed in this module: sibling rivalry, developing social skills, and schoolwork.

 

Method….

 

• Lecture Presentations
• Role-Playing Exercised and other experiential activities
• Question and Answer Forum

 

Resource Persons……

 

Speakers are trained counselors/ psychologists from the CEFAM staff.

 

The PEP-kids Workshop is based on the U.S. program called Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP) and has been adopted by CEFAM speakers to meet the needs of the Filipino family.

Schedule……

 

Two Consecutive Saturdays

 

September 1 & 8, 2007

8:30 am – 4:30 pm

• The PEP-Kids Workshop is conducted in CEFAM two times a year. The entire workshop or portions of it (any of the individual topics) may be conducted for schools, corporations, and other organizations.

 

CEFAM Address

 

Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM)

Ateneo de Manila University

Loyola Heights, Q.C.

Tel. # 426-4289 to 92.

 

FEE

• P 2,000.00 per person
• P 3,600.00 per couple (discounted)

 

 

Other Parenting Talks Available…..

1. Adoptive Parenting

2. Bonding With Your Child

3. Connecting With Your Teen

4. Developing Resilience In Your Child

5. Developing Responsibilities In Your Child

6. Effects of Media on Your Child

7. Helping Your Chilld Develop Good Study Habits

8. Helping Your Child Handle Peer Pressure

9. How my Family of Origin Affects me Today

10. It takes two . . . to dialogue

11. Let’s talk about sex

12. Love and sex: God’s Ways

13. Managing A Solo Flight

14. Nurturing Your Child’s IQ

15. Teaching Values to Your Child

16. Understanding Friendship

17. What’s your EQ?

18. Work-Family Balance

For more questions or reservation, please feel free to call us at 426-4289 to 92.

A two-day live-out comprehensive psycho-spiritual approach seminar-workshop for couples seriously contemplating marriage, for engaged couples, and newly married couples adjusting in their new married life.

 

OBJECTIVES:

 

The Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM) has created this program

· To prepare engaged couples to know and understand one another better before plunging into marriage.

· To help newly married couples adjust in their married life.

 

PROCESS AND METHODOLOGY:

1. Lectures

Areas of Focus:

Human Maturity

Value Clarification

Authentic Love

 

1. Counseling Sessions

Counseling Tools:

Marriage Expectation Inventory

The Interpersonal Comparison Tests

Genogram

With the use and interpretation of the counseling tools and other similar assessment instruments, the couples’ readiness and non-readiness, compatibility and non-compatibility are highly brought to light.

 

TOPICS:

Marriage: A Path to Wholeness

Maturity for Marriage

Self-Worth & Self-Esteem

Mutual Affirmation

Creative, Dialogue & Communication

Sexuality, Affectivity & Intimacy

Man-Woman Roles

Responsible Parenthood/ Family Planning

Marriage as a Social Sacrament

Couple & Family Spirituality

Authentic Love

 

 

 

It is highly recommended for premarital couples to attend this seminar at least 6 months to one year before their scheduled wedding plans.

Venue of CANA Seminar: Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM) Ateneo de Manila

University Campus, Loyola Heights, Q.C.

 

Schedule:

 

October 20 & 21, 2007

November 17 & 18, 2007

December 08 & 09, 2007

September 17 & 18

 

Fee: P 4,000.00 per couple

 

Coordinators: Ms. Tess Banzon

Ms. Jessieline Chang

Ms. Lory Cipriano

Ms. Polly Garilao

Ms. Randa Inumerable

Ms. Marivic Magno

Ms. Peewee Morato

Ms. Stella Nivera

Ms. Marivi Silva

Ms. Susan Syquia

Ms. Josie Valderrama

For Interested Parties: Call Tina at 426-4289 to 92/ Fax: 426-4285

e-mail: cefam@admu.edu.ph

The Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM) is offering this intensive, two-week seminar workshop particularly for persons and agencies whose work is focused on helping families.

The program is designed to develop:

KNOWLEDGE

• Look at a family not simply as pathological/ dysfunctional but also with opportunities and strengths
• Appreciate the Filipino family psyche
• Exposure to different family counseling/therapy approaches
• Learn family dynamics from a systems theory perspective
• Understand crises/transitions & how families can cope
• Learn “differentiation of self”, “boundaries”, and its implication to the Filipino concept of “family connectedness”
• Awareness and understanding on how one’s emotional birth order molds a person’s personality, behavior, and managerial skills.

SKILLS

• Assessment
• Identify healthy patterns of behavior/ strengths and use them
• Capacity to “define self”
• Identify which family counseling approach would fit the helper
• Distinguish: Ordinary conversation and counseling
• Confession and counseling
• Spiritual direction and counseling
• Advice-giving and counseling
• Treatment:
• Observe the different family counseling/ therapy approaches demonstrated and try to use them under supervision
• Use reflecting skills for empathy and the ability to clarify
• Transference/ counter transference and referral

ATTITUDES

• Awareness of being a “church” and deepen hope, trust, faith, and humility
• Awaken and appreciate the dignity of person despite deep psychological problems
• Deepen compassion (empathy) as one looks across generations
• Appreciate “Serenity Prayer”

The seminar-workshop will make use of:

• a psycho-spiritual approach in helping couples
• experiential process activities, both individually and in groups
• demonstration of counseling sessions
• role play sessions
• lectures, readings, case studies
• growth group process
  Teaching & Administrative Staff:
  Fr. Ruben M. Tanseco, S.J., M.A., S.T.L.
  Ma. Mila C. Domingo, R.S.W.
  Teodulo P. Gonzales, S.J., Ph. D.
  Arsenio A. Lumiqued, Jr., M.S.C., Ph.D.
  Myrna Joyce O. Sanchez, M.A.
  Maureen N. Sandejas, M.A.
  Antonia C. Siy, M.A.

  DEADLINE FOR APPLICATIONS: April 12, 2008

The Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM) is offering this intensive, two week seminar workshop particularly for persons and agencies whose work include the following:

• Marriage Preparation Programs
• Premarital Counseling as required by law prior to issuance of a marriage license (Family Code, Art 16)
• Marriage Counseling for conflict-resolution, growth, and enrichment
• Marriage Counseling for couples seeking legal separation (Family Code Art. 59) or annulment (Family Code, Art 36)

The program is designed to develop:

• a greater self-awareness, self-understanding and self-direction on the part of the marriage counselor, thus maximizing his/her potential as a helping person
  the basic attitudes and skills of humanistic counseling, by means of both theory and practice (process and-content methodology)
  a working knowledge of both the psycho-spiritual dynamics of premarital/marital relationships, and the basic premarital/marital counseling models

The seminar-workshop will make use of :

• a psycho-spiritual approach in helping couples
  experiential process activities, both individually and in groups
  demonstration of counseling sessions
  role play sessions
  lectures, readings, case studies
  growth group process

TEACHING AND ADMINISTRATIVE STAFF:

Ma. Mila C. Domingo, R.S.W
Teodulo P. Gonzales, S.J., Ph.D.
Arsenio A. Lumiqued, Jr. M.S.C, Ph.D.
Alberto, A.B. & Ma. Azucena Malvar, Diploma in F.M.
Raul, Diploma in F.M. & Estela Nivera, Diploma in F.M.
Eduardo P. Palma, A.B.
Luz Casimiro-Querubin, M.D.
Elizabeth E. Rondain, M.D.
Ruben M. Tanseco, S.J., M.A., S.T.L.

REGISTRATION DAY: April 30, 2008 from 2:00 p.m. – 5:00 p.m

OBJECTIVE AND DESCRIPTION

The Center for family Ministries (CEFAM) at the Loyola School of Theology, Ateneo de Manila University, offers a Professional Diploma in Family Ministries, a one-year, non-degree program.The program is designed for persons engaged or to be engaged in the pastoral care of couples and families, such as lay-workers and coordinators of family life apostolates, seminarians, Priests, Ministers, and Religious Brothers and Sisters.

There are two major components to the program: COUNSELING (curative dimensions) and SPIRITUALITY (growth dimension). A wholistic, psycho-spiritual approach characterizes the program, utilizing a content-and-process methodology as its means.

The counseling component of the program will include a study of the psychodynamics and relevant socio-cultural factors, and a practicum training in skills necessary for a basic counseling ministry with couples and families.

The spirituality component of the program will include both a study of the scriptural-moral-doctrinal underpinnings of Christian family life and a graduated, integrated series of growth programs in family spirituality.

The total program aims to train persons in building up the Filipino family as a “domestic Church”, a community of love, justice, freedom and peace, both within the home and in its social role and responsibility to the nation and to the world. The thrust of “service of the faith and the promotion of justice” will permeate the overall program.

REQUIREMENTS:

1. A college degree or its equivalent. The major courses of the program are on the graduate school level.

2. Transcript of record from the college or university attended, showing average or above-average grades for the overall program of studies undertaken.

3. A filled-in application form, accompanied by three letters of recommendation, one from the Superior or supervisor of the applicant, and two from among his/her associates.

4. The course offerings will be held in the afternoons and evenings. The spirituality growth programs and other elective seminars will be held on some staggered week-ends. Counseling practicum work will be done in consultation with the counseling supervisor.

PROGRAM OF STUDIES

Semester 1 (June-October) (12 units)

COURSES

Theo 289/ S89
Pastoral Psychology and Counseling

Theo 293/ S93
Marital/ Premarital Dynamics and
Counseling: A Psychospiritual Approach

Theo 293.1/ S93.1
Family Dynamics and Counseling Approaches

Theo 292.3/ S92.3
Assessment and Initial Intervention of
Individual and Relationship Disorders

Non-Credit Requirement: Participation In a Growth Group Weekend

Semester II (November-March) (12 units)

COURSES

Theo 262.1/ S62.1
Family Spirituality and Sexual Ethics

Theo 294/ S94
Marital/ Family Counseling Practicum

Theo 294.1/ S94.1
Family Spirituality Practicum

Elective Course

Elective Courses:

Theo 279/ S79
Apostolic Spirituality

Theo 281/ S81
Discernment and Spiritual Direction

Theo 292/ S92
Child and Adolescent Counseling

Theo 292.1/ S92.1
Strategic Family Therapy

Theo 293.2/ S93.2
Explorations in Individual and Family Resilience

Theo 295 / S95
Pastoral Group Process

Theo 295.1 / S95.1
Pastoral Clinical Apprenticeship and Supervision

Others seminars will be offered from time to time. All the course and seminar offerings are under the auspices of the Loyola School of Theology.

TUITION AND FEES

Registration Fee 374.00
Basic Fee 1,728.00

Tuition Fee per unit 930.00

Library Fee

per unit 165.00

9 units and above 1,512.00

As of School year 2005 – 2006

FACULTY

Jose M. de Mesa, Ph.D.
Fr. Juvenal A. Moraleda, CSsR, M. A., S.T.L.
Pilar V. Garilao, M.A., Cand.
Cynthia J. Gavino, M.A.
Tita A. Go, Ph.D.
Fr. Teodulo P. Gonzales, S.J., M.A., M.S., Ph.D.
Fr. Thomas H. Green, S.J., Ph.D.
Fr. Arsenio A. Lumiqued, Jr., M.S.C., Ph.D.
Ma. Rosario R. Morato, M.A.
Fr. Juvenal A. Moraleda, CSsR, M.A., S.T.L.
Elizabeth E. Rondain, M.D.
Antonia C. Siy, M.A.
Fr. Ruben M. Tanseco, S.J., M.A., S.T.L.
Ma. Teresa G. Villasor, Ph.D.